A double standard in relationships can be defined as having a rule or rules that apply to one partner but may apply to the other partner in the same way. For example in intimate relationships, when he talks to another girl it may be termed as "okay" and when she does, then it can be termed as "unacceptable".
1. She/He can hang out with a lot of guys/girls, but she/he can't do the same with guys/girls.
When men have female friends, they expect you to look at it as something acceptable and normal but you have male friends, they don't like it. This may be the #1 major double standard in relationships that still yet unexplainable and people may think it isn't fair while other think it's totally okay. I would say SOME girls have more guy friends than guys have more guys friends. You may see women communicating with friendly guys that she knows, you may even see a woman spending time with a man but as soon as she sees her boyfriend with another female just hanging out as friends, it's the end of the world.
I could say I am THAT PERSON minus the guy friends. I believe females are sneaky and to not to be trusted, I am sure we all been in situations where a female will say "You and your boyfriend are so cute" then when she realizes you two broke up, she's right at him. Therefore; they are not to be trusted. Females are disgusting and guys can be sneaky too, that is why I do not have guy friends. They always end up catching feelings when you two are just on a friends level.
You shouldn't stop hanging with your friends but if you're a guy and you realize a female that you've been friends with is getting in the way of your relationship or you find out that she likes you (feelings) then it may be time to let her go or let her know what her place really is. Vice Versa for women too! Never let someone who does not have that power have one up on your SOS or get too comfortable to the point where it could mess up your relationship.
2. Exposing insecurities
Women don't just do it but men as well. Let's speak for the men - much may disagree with me but we all know this blog is From Experience. Guys like joking around or likes "playing too much", it may go far to the point where a guy can point out his girl insecurities but, he may not even know that she's insecure about that certain thing.
Women may do it and tell him to get over it because she thinks he's not that sensitive when it comes to that certain insecurity. Men do it and this may even be the end of the RELATIONSHIP. It isn't right so it'll be best to speak on all insecurities when you're comfortable with each other.
3. When a woman complains, she's doing "the most". When a guy complains, it's nothing.
Men think women are overreacting about little things and situations but when a man is complaining, it's a huge problem. He'll go on and on and on about the problem until he gets a reaction out of you. Even if you don't agree with what the other person is talking about, you can get upset regardless but...IT NEEDS TO BE ADDRESSED
4. Being Petty and Hurting One Another
If your boyfriend/girlfriend does something, you want them to quickly get over it and let the hurt go because you may feel as though it is going too far. They may go on about the situation and take it so far as to writing something on Instagram so everyone can see it or it goes to possibly end the whole relationship. If you're young-minded, then this is you! People need to act their age and get it together. Pettiness won't get you anywhere!
5. Yelling at Each Other
Small arguments can turn into something bigger which involves yelling at your boyfriend/girlfriend. A lot of people don't like criticism but they both may think yelling at each other is acceptable because their upset when in reality yelling makes everything worse. Communication is the #1 important thing you need in a relationship, that is what holds the bond together. If you don't like your partner yelling then it could be possible to reconsider the way you approach them, to begin with.
6. Staying in contact with an ex, that's ok but when you do the same, it's wrong and lack of loyalty
Bringing your ex into your new relationship has to be the most disrespectful thing ever. It causes confusion; However, some people are in a good relationship standing with their exes but that relationship should NEVER be as important as your current relationship. Your new man or girl should never feel like your ex has one up on them. They're your ex for a reason. Don't ever let your ex get in the middle of a good relationship and speak on your current relationship.
7. MEN should ALWAYS pay on dates
I disagree with this. What's a good reason on why men should always pay for dates? In my opinion, little kids have that mindset no matter the age! It should be equal paying or even take turns with paying for the date. This is something that could be discussed before the date, have a conversation about what works best for the both of you as a couple.
8. People don't want to have an open relationship but still cheat
An open is relationship is an intimate relationship where both partners agree that they can do anything with anything without romance and with honesty. It is rare to find couples who are honest with each other about their sexual activity with someone else but keeping secrets about it can be called "normal". The best solution for this could be to stop judging people. Think twice about how you define "normal" and how other people define it.
9. Getting Jealous and Being Controlling
When a woman is getting jealous, it can be "non-threatening" but if a man is jealous, women think he's being "controlling".
10. Asking for Too Much
Growing up I was always told to provide for myself and don't ever depend on a man for anything. Women tend to act like they NEED this or that or that their man NEEDS TO BUY them what they want. Men think just because they're in a relationship that they need to spoil their girl ALL THE TIME. It's nothing wrong with spoiling your girlfriend or boyfriend from time to time. its all about indulging her every once in a while.
How to avoid them:
Double standards could lead to ending a relationship depending on the people in the relationships. It could also mean expecting someone to act a certain way because of their gender, race or reputation. One thing people should remember is that double standards come from anywhere. The most successful way to avoiding double standards in any relationship is to communicate with one another. Let your partner know what's on your mind, what you like and what you don't like, and so on. Your boyfriend/girlfriend may not know that what they're doing or saying is a double standard so be sure to make it clear to them. Arguments will just make everything worse.
Also, another thing to do is to be sure you see where your boyfriend/girlfriend is coming from. Always try to see through their point of view. If you feel as though your boyfriend/girlfriend isn't trying to hear you out or not being reasonable then that could be a sign to let them go if it isn't working out. Other than that, if you can point them out then you should make them non-existent in your relationship. Set rules if you have to.
If your boyfriend/girlfriend or partner feels as though it matters to them then it should be vice versa and matter to out. Stop thinking "its no big deal" and change that to "What can we do together so that this can be fixed?"
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