Many people believe long-distance relationships are bound to never work. You may doubt it yourself or even friends and family. It is not easy, it may be difficult to deal with each other or do certain things with distance being in the way. You may never know what will happen. However, long-distance relationships can make or break the relationship and bond. The extra distance makes you two in the relationship want to be with each other even more than usual. This is great for couples that travel a lot, are in college or met each other in different states.
Here are 14 tips to make your long distance relationship work:
1. Set some ground rules
Both of you need to make it clear as to what you both want and what to expect from each other during the long-distance relationship. Set a few ground rules so that neither of you will do things that will ruin the bond or relationship. For example, Is it okay if either of you go on a date with someone else? What is your current status? Be open about what it is you need or want to know.
2. Make trips to each other
Trips to see each other is what makes the relationship exciting. To know you two have been waiting for so long to be around each other. This will give you two the opportunity to fulfill little things like kissing, holding and hugging each other while being extra intimate or going out.
3. Mark GOALS and Discussions in your relationship
Ask yourself or each other, "What would we like to accomplish in life together?", "Where do we (HOPE TO) see our relationship within in the next year or so?", "What should we plan for the next time we see each other?"...etc. It is always important for you two to know you are on the same page and have the same goals. Motivation & Communication should be at the top of your GOALS list.
4. Be & Stay honest with each other
Talk about your insecurities or one of you being the jealous type. Do not try and hide how you feel or what is being done or said behind each other‘s back. You should have each other’s back and should feel safe to share your thoughts or feelings. This is better than lying to one another and holding back.
5. Have trust
Relationships will not work if there is not any trust. It is important to be able to feel like you can trust your partner in a long-distance relationship.If you are in a long-distance relationship with no trust, you will want to keep tabs on your partner every second which will most likely turn them off. If there isn't any trust, build it. Earning is just as important. It is more than trusting your partner but more so, can you count on your partner for everything? Are they paying attention? Are they forgetful? All these questions are to apply to you as well but if you fully trust each other then there is no worries to even doubt your long-distance relationship.
6. Stay positive
You need to keep positive energy at all times in a long-distance relationship. The waiting is a headache but it will eventually pay off. You can sometimes feel lonely and you will need to remind yourself that this will be good in the ending. Be thankful for the small things that you do for and to each other.
7. Communicate, FaceTime, Text, Call
When I say communication, I mean every form! This will make you two feel like you guys are okay. Neither of you don’t want to feel left out.
8. Share "What's New?"
Bonding physically and mentally is top priority. Disucss everything. “What do you like and don't like?“, “What’s your favorite movie? food? book?”, “Where do you like to eat?”. Talk religion, music, society, politics, etc. Keep up to date with each other so you two do not get bored.
9. Avoid Arguments & Work Through it
Arguments tend to push people away. This does not necessarily mean shut each other out but instead talk everything out. This always includes taking anger out on each eachother. Whatever you do, avoid the added in unnecessary stress. Miscommunication is bound to happen in a long-distance relationship. Speak directly and do not play little kid games.
10. Think of it as a TEST
This may not be a set-up but it will determine who is in it for real and who is not. Think about it. Is the bond strong enough to survive the distance and time?
11. Sexual-Tension
It is not always required but keeping that tension up and alive will keep the long-distance relationship.
12. Be Confident in Your Relationship
Insecurity can result in excessive messages, calls and tension that is not needed. Not staying confident and positive could leave your relationship on a slippery slope. Trust, Be Confident, Stay Positive.
13. Listen
Listen to each other while talking. As stated above, communication plays a big role in relationships. Actively listening shows that you two care for the conversations and discussions. Suggest solutions, follow-up questions and remembering is simple and shows active effort for being involved in each others life.
14. Keep yourself occupied
Do not spend you time crying or feeling bad that you are in a long-distance relationship. Everything happens for a reason. Yes, you will miss your partner but there are other things to life than feeling sorry, upset or dwelling. Spend your time focusing on yourself, school or working before putting all your focus on your partner. Stay busy to keep your mind off of the distance. Read, Work, Exercise, Study, Go out. Something.
In Conclusion
You and your partner are the only two people who will make the relationship work. Tips are always helpful but if communication, trust and arguments is the problem in your relationship then a discussion about the relationship needs to be brought up. It is do-able but difficult. Giving up is never an option if you actually want something as much as you say you do so make it work.
Comments